Okay, let’s be real here.
I started livelaughblog as a way to talk about actual, realistic lifestyle things that everyday humans also experience and enjoy. As a way for people to come together and talk about real life issues, products, and things that make me happy.
I brought up the concept of having a blog to a couple of friends, and they literally laughed in my face. I mean, I get it. I see why people doubt how blogging could turn into something big, but what’s wrong with having hope and believing in yourself?
I guess that comes from a while back when I got involved with a network marketing company (which I’m not going to name). I was so excited about it, I told all of my friends and made events on Facebook to host launch parties to tell everyone about what I was doing. I wanted people to know and be excited about the product because I was, and I wanted them to believe in it just as much as I was believing in it.
What really sucked was coming to the realization that although my friends came to my events and were there to support me, I could tell by the way they looked at me when I talked about the company, that they didn’t believe it would work out. They listened to my presentations and even bought some product, but everytime they asked me ‘How is that company going for you?’, I could see they were almost expecting failure.
I think true friends want the best for you and want to believe in you, but sometimes they’re caught in a sticky place where they have a feeling things won’t work out, but they support you anyways.
I made the decision to not tell my friends about this blog because I didn’t want the doubtful looks and the mixed feelings. For the first time in my life, I actually believed in myself and what I was doing, even if I wasn’t exactly doing it right in the beginning. Does anyone really start by doing anything right? Isn’t that what working hard and growing is for; to learn about ourselves and improve in the areas we lack?
To me, there are three major ‘B’ areas that you must understand in order for you to start your blog:
Be your Biggest Supporter
When I started this blog, I didn’t tell anyone. Well, I told my boyfriend but that’s different considering he was going to find out eventually. I mean, I can’t hide blogging and posting excessively on my phone from him forever. I decided not to tell anyone else because I didn’t want the ‘so how’s blogging going?’ sympathetic head tilt conversation. I realized that I don’t need approval from my friends for blogging, I just need to be sure and confident in myself.
And that’s the real part of this, when you are doing what you love, you can’t let a SINGLE SOUL in this universe tell you what you should or should not be doing.
Whether you have a supporter or not, if you have the drive and the will to succeed, all you need are the tools to get started and your mind to keep you going; YOU can be your biggest supporter.
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, there is nothing worse than reading material from someone that was not PASSIONATE about their work. How can you have a blog and not give a crap about what you’re writing about? You need to love every minute of what you’re writing about. If you don’t, pick a different topic and keep looking until you find your niche.
What I love most about lifestyle blogs is finding authors that aren’t afraid to say what everyone else is thinking. Don’t sugar coat what you’re trying to say- just say it. Don’t be afraid to write a controversial post if its what you believe in, because people appreciate realness.
Believe in Yourself
Aside from being your biggest supporter, you need to truly believe that you can do whatever you put your mind to. Do you think Steve Jobs stopped believing in himself after he dropped out of college and was fired from Apple before the age of 30? We pretty much wouldn’t have any of the technical inventions we have in the world today if it weren’t for people believing in their inventions and their capabilities. We wouldn’t have Harry Potter if J.K. Rowling, a single, divorced and broke mother in her early twenties didn’t believe in the books. If you think you can do it, don’t stop trying. You might get rejected 10, 100, 10,000 times before you actually get somewhere with your work, but won’t it be more worth it in the end?
I’m here to tell you that the world is a really harsh place, people are doing jobs they absolutely hate and living lives they don’t want to be a part of. If you’re taking the step of even thinking of starting a blog because you want it to be your career, be the most authentic you possible; because at the end of the day, everyone is trying to find the thing in this world that makes them happy.