I’ve always been a firm believer that taking a trip somewhere, even if its within the same country but a different city, town, or even a couple of blocks away is soothing for the soul and provides an escape that you just can’t get from sitting in an office all day. When I first started dating my boyfriend, I told him probably within our first three dates that before I settled down with someone, I wanted to take some key trips with that person. I want this to happen before kids get into the picture, and even before marriage happens. Taking a trip with someone is a way to get to know that person on a whole new level that you just couldn’t achieve from staying home. Travelling with a partner allows you to get to know that different side of them, it allows you to experience the wave of emotions they feel while experiencing a different atmosphere and vice versa for the other partner. Let’s explore..
The “Vegas” Trip
When I say Vegas, I don’t actually mean that every single couple on this earth needs to board a plane and hit Vegas or their relationship is doomed as they know it. What I mean is, I firmly believe that couples should take a weekend (or even one night), head down to the closest thing they have to an entertainment, booze filled, casino extravaganza and have a great ol’ time dancing, drinking, gambling, bowling, and ordering all of the food your heart desires. It’s important to see how your sig. other can handle a trip with you that includes all of the above extras, as whether they spend too much at the casino, drink too much booze and do something stupid, or insist that your night won’t be complete until you hit the strip club can definitely be important indications of how later events in your relationship will unfold. If you’re not a couple who drinks or likes to gamble, then you’ve already settled the question of how stupid you’re significant other will act with the influence of booze, congrats!
The Weekend Getaway
In the course of my relationship, I have taken many of the classic ‘weekend getaway’ trips with my boyfriend. We live about 40 minutes each way from two major Canadian cities (Toronto and Niagara Falls) so we usually go once every few months, get a hotel, and plan some different activities. You can do this trip in many variations, depending on the activities you like to do. The point of this trip is to spend a couple of nights together alone and see how you both are enjoying different activities together. You can learn a lot about someone just from spending a weekend together. I remember going on a wine tour trip that was organized through the hotel we were staying at one weekend. My boyfriend and I were both among a sea of older couples, and we got to see how one another not only interacted with other couples at this fancy winery, but also how we were able to handle our wine. You can observe little things like how they treat the guests you come into contact with throughout the trip, how they handle drinking wine on the wine tour, etc. I also want to emphasize that the WHOLE point of these trips is not to stake out on your sig. other and watch their every little move. Obviously you want to have an awesome time, but they can give you the chance to see little red flags that you otherwise may not have noticed.
This is a big one. I believe this trip should be taken when you’re at least a year or two into dating, but hey, if you take it a week into dating then I won’t judge; do what you gotta do. The purpose of taking a week away together to relax in a tropical destination is obviously to escape from the trials and tribulations of life and enjoy a week (or more) in the sun together. But it will also give you a HUGE indication of what it’s like to live with someone for a week straight. Even if you already have moved in with your person, there’s nothing like being forced to be together miles away from home in a destination where you probably only know and can rely on each other. At least when you live together you have the space and time to have a different schedule from your significant other, but being on vacation together creates a new type of togetherness that you wouldn’t experience just sitting at home. My mother always told me that before I get married to anyone, I need to go on vacation with them and see if we can last a week together. Sometimes mother just knows best.
The Backpacking Trip
One trip I have yet to take is the trip I have been looking forward to since my friend decided to be an exchange student in England and would Skype me every weekend, telling me about her adventures overseas and enlightening me on the differences of culture that she was experiencing. Taking a trip to specifically experience another culture and tour another country or city isn’t necessarily a relaxing vacation, but its another adventure on its own that allows you and your partner to experience culture together while learning and certainly figuring out obstacles along the way. My friend was telling me a story about how her and her boyfriend went to different restaurants in Italy and they kept ordering things they didn’t want because they couldn’t properly pronounce the menu items. She said they befriended an Italian couple who spoke English and helped them to learn some words on the menu. She said her and her boyfriend were basically teaching each other Italian after a while and she said she felt it strengthened their relationship. Taking in another culture together and overcoming obstacles while travelling is a very important way to deepen your connection and feel more in sync with one another.
I also want to add that not every couple has the means to pack their bags and plan a vacation together whenever they please. There are many different ways to approach going away together and sometimes you can have just as much fun by spending a weekend together at a motel and hitting a cheap casino than you would on an extravagant all-inclusive. It all depends on your relationship and how much fun you have together!
Comment on if you have done any of these trips and what your experience was like!